Are You Over-Tolerant in Your Relationship?
4 Signs the Answer Might Be Yes!
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Relationships between two emotionally balanced, relatively mentally healthy individuals can result in mutual fulfillment and support when both partners are committed, communicate, and have mutual respect for one another. However, if one or both partners have personal issues that cause harm to themselves and/or the relationship, then the situation can rapidly become toxic. For many people, this is enough to cause a breakup, but for others, this situation highlights a set of traits that cause the individual to stay in the relationship, even if it is causing him or her significant emotional or even physical harm. This phenomenon has been referred to as codependency, megatolerance, and basically describes behavior that is excessively tolerant. Here are 4 signs you might be over tolerant in your relationship:
1. You deny or rationalize how bad the behavior is in your own mind. This may be accomplished psychologically by comparing how bad your partner's actions are compared to others. However, just because one car accident has a worse result than another doesn't mean either is desirable!
2.You make excuses for, or hide your partner's behavior to others. You might feel motivated not only to protect his or her reputation, but also your own, since you might be feeling shame about how others will judge the way you are allowing yourself to be treated. If you can, you are likely to excuse your partner's behavior if it is found out - and you might even try to cover for him or her by fulfilling whatever responsibility he or she has shirked.
3.You feel as if you can't live without this person and feel driven to do whatever it takes to keep things going. This includes dropping arguments if you encounter too much resistance and it feels like rocking the boat. Ultimatums may be dropped, and you might actually feel a sense of strong anxiety at the idea of being without your partner no matter what he or she does.
4.You worry excessively about how your partner will manage without you if you do leave. You feel as if you are indispensable to him or her, and feel responsible for how he or she will react. This may hold you in the relationship out of feelings of guilt, even if you believe it would be healthiest for you to leave.By the way, what is holding you back from making the best choices to achieve the life you deserve?
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Relationships between two emotionally balanced, relatively mentally healthy individuals can result in mutual fulfillment and support when both partners are committed, communicate, and have mutual respect for one another. However, if one or both partners have personal issues that cause harm to themselves and/or the relationship, then the situation can rapidly become toxic. For many people, this is enough to cause a breakup, but for others, this situation highlights a set of traits that cause the individual to stay in the relationship, even if it is causing him or her significant emotional or even physical harm. This phenomenon has been referred to as codependency, megatolerance, and basically describes behavior that is excessively tolerant. Here are 4 signs you might be over tolerant in your relationship:
1. You deny or rationalize how bad the behavior is in your own mind. This may be accomplished psychologically by comparing how bad your partner's actions are compared to others. However, just because one car accident has a worse result than another doesn't mean either is desirable!
2.You make excuses for, or hide your partner's behavior to others. You might feel motivated not only to protect his or her reputation, but also your own, since you might be feeling shame about how others will judge the way you are allowing yourself to be treated. If you can, you are likely to excuse your partner's behavior if it is found out - and you might even try to cover for him or her by fulfilling whatever responsibility he or she has shirked.
3.You feel as if you can't live without this person and feel driven to do whatever it takes to keep things going. This includes dropping arguments if you encounter too much resistance and it feels like rocking the boat. Ultimatums may be dropped, and you might actually feel a sense of strong anxiety at the idea of being without your partner no matter what he or she does.
4.You worry excessively about how your partner will manage without you if you do leave. You feel as if you are indispensable to him or her, and feel responsible for how he or she will react. This may hold you in the relationship out of feelings of guilt, even if you believe it would be healthiest for you to leave.By the way, what is holding you back from making the best choices to achieve the life you deserve?
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